July 31, 2020
Books I’ve Loved | Neil Strauss on the Tim Ferriss Show
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Key Takeaways
- Books Neil recommends reading:
- The Fear Book: Facing Fear Once and for All by Cheri Huber
- Be the Person You Want to Find: Relationship and Self-Discovery by Cheri Huber
- Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody
- Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love by Pia Mellody
- Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners by Kenneth M. Adams
- Under Saturn’s Shadow: The Wounding and Healing of Men by James Hollis
- The Eden Project: In Search of the Magical Other by James Hollis
Intro
- Neil Strauss (@neilstrauss) is a New York Times bestselling author, journalist, and host of To Live and Die in LA (a podcast we HIGHLY recommend)
- Host: Tim Ferriss (@tferriss)
Book Recommendations
- The Fear Book: Facing Fear Once and for All by Cheri Huber
- Neil is a huge fan of Cheri Huber because her books are meaningful and to the point (only about 150 pages)
- If you’re having trouble facing your fears, Neil highly recommends this book
- “The book walks you through the idea of how to embrace them and move beyond them” – Neil Strauss
- “It’s a great, demystifying, powerful book”
- Quote from the book: “If you no longer believe what fear tells you, you will live and it will not”
- Be the Person You Want to Find: Relationship and Self-Discovery by Cheri Huber
- “The book is about you taking 100% responsibility for yourself all the time” – Neil Strauss
- “I love it, highly recommend it”
- “The book is about you taking 100% responsibility for yourself all the time” – Neil Strauss
- Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody
- This book presents a model of trauma that has helped Neil understand his life
- It can help you self-diagnose your trauma and abuse (emotional, physical, sexual, and spiritual abuse)
- This book presents a model of trauma that has helped Neil understand his life
- Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love by Pia Mellody
- The book talks about the neediness and resentment pattern that occurs in most relationships
- “It’s a powerful book…really read these multiple times and you’ll have an understanding of the matrix of how relationships work” – Neil Strauss
- The book talks about the neediness and resentment pattern that occurs in most relationships
- Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners by Kenneth M. Adams
- The book explains the concept and dangers of enmeshment, or when a child is meeting a parent’s needs
- A parent with a lot of anxiety will try to control their child, a lonely parent will try to keep the child home more so that they have someone to talk to
- Another way to call enmeshment is emotional incest: It’s when a child is used emotionally by the parent
- “It’s a great book about it, it walks you through it, explains the cases, and gives you steps to break the pattern” – Neil Strauss
- The book explains the concept and dangers of enmeshment, or when a child is meeting a parent’s needs
- Under Saturn’s Shadow: The Wounding and Healing of Men by James Hollis
- Neil has given away over 100 copies of this book
- It’s a book about self-examination and making sure you’re not following preset tracks set by society
- “So good, highly recommend it” – Neil Strauss
- It’s a book about self-examination and making sure you’re not following preset tracks set by society
- Neil loved this book so much that he hired the author to be his therapist (James is a Jungian psychoanalyst)
- “It’s not the easiest book to make it through but it’s so dense with meaning, with historical examples, with amazing quotes” – Neil Strauss
- Neil has given away over 100 copies of this book
- The Eden Project: In Search of the Magical Other by James Hollis
- Quotes from the book:
- “Being in an intimate relationship is a bit like asking someone to join hands with us but only after walking across a field in which we had planted mines”
- “The greatest gift to others is our own best selves”
- “It’s so good” – Neil Strauss
- Quotes from the book:
