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Creativity Principles, The Value of Consistent Hard Work, and Putting Negative Emotions in Perspective – Kobe Bryant on On Purpose with Jay Shetty

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Key Takeaways

  • Instead of running from negative emotions, make an effort to pause, step back, and assess them for what they are (most of the time, it’s just your imagination running wild)
  • Nothing happens overnight. Consistent hard work, done over the long-term, leads to success.
  • If you focus on constant improvement, the end result takes care of itself
  • Kobe’s creativity principles:
    • Creativity comes from structure
    • Consistency breeds creativity (show up, do the work, day after day, and get it done)
    • The seeds of a creative idea often take a long time to sprout
    • Attack your ideas to build them up
    • Create from truth

Books Mentioned

  • The book that’s had the most significant impact on Kobe: The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho


Kobe’s Mission with Granity Studios

  • As the father of 4 girls, much of the content Kobe creates at Granity is aimed at helping the younger generation
    • One of his main drivers: “In today’s world, there’s so much clutter. It’s become harder for kids to try and weave through a lot of the crap that’s out there to find stuff that’s beneficial to them.” – Kobe Bryant 
      • The above relates to a famous E.O. Wilson quote: “We’re drowning in information and starving for wisdom”
  • Many of Kobe’s children’s novels aim to teach valuable life lessons through sports stories; why sports?
    • “Sports is the greatest metaphor we have in terms of dealing with life” Kobe Bryant

Children Have Lost the Ability to Problem-Solve

  • 🎧 “I feel like, in this day and age, our children have become less imaginative about how to problem-solve. Parents and coaches have become more directive; they give orders and tell kids how to behave, rather than teach them how to behave.” – Kobe Bryant
    • Jay adds: “When you treat people like kids, they’ll always be kids—even when they grow up”

Wise Words from Kobe’s Father

  • Something Kobe’s dad once said that’s always stuck with him: “Whether you score 0 or 60, I love you”
    • Making a continuous effort to keep this in the back of his mind, Kobe always had the confidence to fail—whether in entrepreneurship, writing, or basketball—because no matter what, he knew he’d be loved
    • Kobe adds: “I’ve seen too many parents say the exact opposite, and it terrifies children. Children become paralyzed by their own fear because they don’t have that security blanket of love and comfort.”

Unpack Your Negative Emotions, Don’t Run From Them

  • “Emotions come and go. The important thing is to accept them and embrace them all. Then, you can choose to do with them what you please, as opposed to being controlled by them.” Kobe Bryant
  • So, instead of pushing away a negative emotion (like fear), take a pause, step back, unpack the emotion, and examine it for what it truly is (most of the time, it’s just your imagination running wild)
  • For example, say you’re nervous before taking a free-throw:
    • Ask yourself: “What am I really nervous about?”
      • (Likely, that you’ll miss the shot)
    • So what? – “Well, then I’ll be embarrassed”
    • So what? – “People will talk bad about me”
    • Is that even important? – “No. But what if I let my teammates down?”
    • You’ve probably let them down before, and you (and they) survived just fine
    • (And so on)

Focus on Constant Improvement, Not the End Result

  • 🎧 “It’s really just a journey of evolution. Every day is constant improvement, constant curiosity, and constantly getting better. The results don’t really matter. It’s the figuring out that matters.” – Kobe Bryant

Consistent Work Over the Long Term Leads to Success

  • “It’s about the consistency of work. Monday: Get better. Tuesday: Get better. Wednesday: Get better. You do that over a long period of time, not one or two months. It’s three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten years before you get to your end destination.” – Kobe Bryant
    • This relates to the famous quote: “We overestimate what we can do in one year, and underestimate what we can do in ten years” 
  • How did Kobe come to develop this mindset?
    • Growing up, Kobe wasn’t the most athletic
      • “I was really scrawny—really, really skinny… I was a dorky kid with high socks and big old knee pads … I had to look long-term because, in the here and now, I couldn’t compete with the kids I was playing against. There were kids who were 12-years-old with beards. They were doing windmills and dunking backward, while I was happy just to tap the backboard. I had to look at things from a long-term point of view. I had to say, ‘This year, I’m going to get better at this. Next year, I’m going to get better at that.’ Patiently, I was able to catch up.” – Kobe Bryant

Kobe’s Has Big Visions for His Next Chapter

  • “Now it’s different because it’s not about the awards. I’m trying to create something that’s going to inspire someone, and hopefully, through that inspiration, they can inspire somebody else. What I’ve come to learn as my career progressed is that’s more significant than any championship.” – Kobe Bryant
  •  Fact: 62% of young children drop out of youth sports 
    • Through his children’s book series, this is one problem Kobe is trying to tackle. How? – By telling fantasy-based sports stories whose lessons children can then transfer to real-life.
    • Kobe adds: “They cite the fact that it’s because they’re not having fun anymore. That’s telling me that we as grown-ups are getting in the way.”

As a Youth Basketball Coach, Kobe Bryant is Asking Questions, Not Giving Answers

  • “Our job is to inspire the creativity inside of our children so that they can think through how to problem-solve situations. When I coach my daughter’s team, it’s not about giving them answers; it’s about asking them questions.” Kobe Bryant
  • Remember: No kid wants to hear orders barked at them by a coach
    • Instead, coaches should encourage players to develop their own thought processes, through which they build confidence and excitement for the game

Avoid Self-Negotiation

  • With whatever you’re going through in life, be it a new workout plan or new project, especially early on, avoid negotiating with yourself when the going gets tough
    • Do not say: “I’ll just do the rest of the workout tomorrow. I’m too tired to workout today.”
      • Set out on a plan and STICK TO IT

A Glimpse Into Kobe Bryant’s Creative Process

  • How does Kobe get his story ideas?
    • “There’s a certain element of truth in everything. Creativity generally comes from personal experiences first, and then you look on the broader scope of taking something extremely personal, and figuring out a way to channel it for the masses.” – Kobe Bryant
  • Kobe’s creativity principles:
    • Creativity comes from structure
    • Consistency breeds creativity (show up, do the work, day after day, and get it done)
    • The seeds of a creative idea often take a long time to sprout
    • Attack your ideas to build them up
      • Do everything you can to discover holes, continually asking, “Is there a reason I’m overlooking as to why this idea won’t possibly work?”‘

Using Mentors to Fuel Inspiration

  • In his office, Kobe has portraits of several mentors, including the likes of J.K Rowling and Steve Jobs
    • Jay, similarity, also has several portraits hung on his wall (Steve Jobs, Albert Einstein, Martin Luther King Jr.)
    • Both Kobe and Jay will frequently find themselves looking at a particular portrait, pondering the question: “What would this person do? How would they have dealt with this challenge.”
  • “It’s important to research your mentors—it’s like putting fuel in the fire every day. It’s constant inspiration. You read about them, what they were able to accomplish, how they went about accomplishing it—you’re constantly feeding that flame and learning.” – Kobe Bryant
  • Realize: The people you look up to are human
    • They made mistakes (just like you), but given the necessary persistence, were able to accomplish great things (and you can do the same)

Rapid Fire

  • What brings Kobe the most joy right now? -“Family”
  • What does Kobe want his daughters to think of when they hear his name? – “Daddy”
  • Kobe’s favorite animated film? – Pinocchio
  • Which book had the most significant impact on Kobe? – The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
  • Kobe’s one message for all storytellers: “Create from truth”
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