What Does It Mean to Be a “Hard Worker”? | No Stupid Questions

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Key Takeaways

  • The Lake Wobegon effect: Tendency to overestimate one’s abilities
    • “At some subconscious level, we just don’t want to think about ourselves in a negative way”Angela Duckworth
  • What makes up happiness?
    • Life satisfaction
      • Thinking that your life is good
    • Positive emotions
      • Feeling good emotions
    • Absence of negative emotion
      • Lack of depression, anxiety, and other similar feelings
  • Sometimes people can be recklessly optimistic and set unattainable goals that decrease their life satisfaction
    • “If you reacher higher, you’ll get farther, but you might be less happy doing it” Angela Duckworth 
  • The 3 Blessings exercise is a reliable way to increase happiness:
    • Think of 3 good things that happened to you in the last 24 hours

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Books Mentioned

Are You A Hard Worker?

  • Asking people if they work hard is helpful for measuring grit
    • If you want to learn more about her research on grit, Angela’s book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance
      • If someone says they’re a hard worker, it’s more likely they’re going to achieve something than not
  • The Lake Wobegon effect: Tendency to overestimate one’s abilities
    • People often overestimate their skills or habits to make themselves feel better about themselves
      • “At some subconscious level, we just don’t want to think about ourselves in a negative way”Angela Duckworth
  • If you want to motivate people to work harder, you have to give them examples of people working hard they consider possible to emulate
    • If you tell them, about how hard Gandhi worked and what he accomplished, you can actually diminish their confidence and motivation to work hard
  • How hard someone works is relative, they will use a reference point and compare themselves to others before giving an answer

How Do We Increase Happiness?

  • Happiness starts dropping at age 16 and does not rise again until our late 40s
    • Why does it drop around adulthood? 
      • There’s an increase in work stress and stress from raising a family
        • Parents fear the empty-nest syndrome, but they actually find themselves happier once their children leave their home
  • Sometimes people can be recklessly optimistic and set unattainable goals that decrease their life satisfaction
    • “If you reacher higher, you’ll get farther, but you might be less happy doing it” Angela Duckworth 
      • “Our aspirations are growing faster than our objective achievements”
  • Positive Psychology is the scientific study of the strengths that enable individuals and communities to thrive
  • What makes up happiness?
    • Life satisfaction
      • Thinking that your life is good
    • Positive emotions
      • Feeling good emotions
    • Absence of negative emotion
      • Lack of depression, anxiety, and other similar feelings
  • “When you’re sad it’s just really hard to be convinced that you’ll ever not be sad” – Angela Duckworth
    • Remember that life is long and the bad parts of life don’t last forever
  • Anticipating rewards is often just as good or sometimes better than the actually reward itself
    • Thinking about the vacation you recently bought can be just as fun as going on the actual vacation
  • The 3 Blessings exercise is a reliable way to increase happiness:
    • Think of 3 good things that happened to you in the last 24 hours
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Notes By Alex Wiec

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