13 Things Mentally Strong People Do When Their Candidate Loses | Amy Morin on The James Altucher Show

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Key Takeaways

  • The #1 thing that people are talking to their therapists about is political stress:
    • “They’re reaching out and getting help because they’re so stressed out about the election” – Amy Morin
  • “Everyone wants you to vote as long as they’re voting on your side” – Amy Morin
    • Whoever wins the election, about 80 million Americans will be disappointed with the outcome
  • 13 Things Mentally Strong People Do When Their Candidate Loses:
    • 1) They Accept The Outcome
    • 2) They Name Their Feelings
    • 3) They Look At The Facts
    • 4) They Argue The Opposite When Thinking Of Doom And Gloom 
    • 5) They Limit Their Media
    • 6) They Stop Commiserating
    • 7) They Focus On What They Can Control
    • 8) They Resist The Urge To Argue On Social Media
    • 9) They Reach For Healthy Coping Skills
    • 10) They Take Care Of Themselves
    • 11) They Change The Channel In Their Brain
    • 12) They Schedule Time To Worry
    • 13) They Take Positive Action
  • The size of your advance in the book industry is related to 2 things:
    • How well your last book sold
    • Your social media follower count

Intro

Books Mentioned

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do

  • Here are the 13 original tips from Amy’s book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do:
    • 1) They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves
    • 2) They Don’t Give Away Their Power
    • 3) They Don’t Shy Away from Change
    • 4) They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control
    • 5) They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone
    • 6) They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks
    • 7) They Don’t Dwell on the Past
    • 8) They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over
    • 9) They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success
    • 10) They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure
    • 11) They Don’t Fear Alone Time
    • 12) They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything
    • 13) They Don’t Expect Immediate Results

Talking About Presidential Elections

  • The #1 thing that people are talking to their therapists about is political stress:
    • “They’re reaching out and getting help because they’re so stressed out about the election” – Amy Morin
  • James has never voted in a presidential election because he likes to say neutral as a writer, podcaster, and someone who has a large audience 
    • “I think you need to be respectfully neutral to do that” – James Altucher
  • “Everyone wants you to vote as long as they’re voting on your side” – Amy Morin
    • Whoever wins the election, about 80 million Americans will be disappointed with the outcome
  • Whoever wins the 2020 election, keep in mind that the world will go on
    • The US has survived, depressions, recessions, world wars, and more. We can survive an election.
  • People think every election is the most important election ever. Here’s a quote from a newspaper James found talking about the 1892 election:
    • “This is surely the most important election held in America”
      • Here’s a quote from the 1940 election:
        • “This is the most important election since 1860”

13 Things Mentally Strong People Do When Their Candidate Loses

  • 1) They Accept The Outcome
    • No matter who wins, a mentally strong person will accept the outcome and move on with their lives
    • You can throw a pity party and wish things were different, but that’s a waste of time and doesn’t do you any good
  • 2) They Name Their Feelings
    • Many studies have shown that if you label your feelings, it takes the sting out of it:
      • “Just putting a label to those emotions reduces the intensity of them, you start to feel better almost instantly” Amy Morin
  • 3) They Look At The Facts
    • Take a step back to look at what’s true what’s not
  • 4) They Argue The Opposite When Thinking Of Doom And Gloom 
    • If you think the economy will crash if your presidential candidate doesn’t win, argue the opposite
    • Just because things will be different, it doesn’t mean things will be worse
  • 5) They Limit Their Media
    • No one, not even the media, knows exactly what the future holds
    • Studies show that watching the evening news can elevate your stress levels
    • Limit your media time to 30 minutes
  • 6) They Stop Commiserating
    • Commiserating, or complaining to others, makes you feel worse and makes the world seem more gloomy
    • There’s a big difference between emotional support and commiserating
    • “It’s not really all that healthy for us to just sit around and talk about how horrible life is” – Amy Morin
  • 7) They Focus On What They Can Control
    • You can’t control the outcome of the election but you can control your diet, who you spend time with, how much sleep you get, etc.
    • The more we worry about things we can’t control, the more anxious we become
  • 8) They Resist The Urge To Argue On Social Media
    • People aren’t going to change who they’re going to vote for over a stranger’s opinion on social media
    • “You’re not changing anyone’s opinion. You’re just wasting your time and your energy.” Amy Morin
  • 9) They Reach For Healthy Coping Skills
    • Have a strategy to handle anxiety, fear, etc.
    • Avoid reaching for alcohol or sweets
    • Try doing yoga, spending time with loved ones, or other healthy ways of coping
  • 10) They Take Care Of Themselves
    • Get 8 hours of sleep, exercise daily, and eat healthily
  • 11) They Change The Channel In Their Brain
    • Recognize when you’re dwelling on the negative or ruminating on a problem instead of trying to solve it 
    • If you find yourself focusing on something negative, get up and go do something different (cleaning your room, go for a walk, call a friend to catch up, etc.)
  • 12) They Schedule Time To Worry
    • Give yourself 15 minutes to worry every day. With practice, people can contain their worrying to just 15 minutes a day.
    • It’s okay to spend time worrying, the key, however, is to be able to contain it
  • 13) They Take Positive Action
    • Do something kind and positive for someone 
      • Be kind to your neighbor
      • Send a thank you letter to a friend
      • Do some community service
      • Make your partner laugh

Additional Notes

  • It’s normal for people to have multiple sides of themselves
    • You don’t talk to your grandmother the same way you talk to your college friends
  • If you’re a content creator, you need to be on social media
  • The size of your advance in the book industry is related to 2 things:
    • How well your last book sold
    • Your social media follower count
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