Why You Should Be Kind, Humble, & Authentic | Gary Vaynerchuk on Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu

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Key Takeaways

  • Be authentic with your audience  
    • “Go to the truth of who you actually are” – Gary Vaynerchuk
    • That includes your actions: “Expose your scar, show your burn mark”
  • Gary wants to help redefine success as happiness, not wealth
    • “Unfortunately, success is around stature, power, money, and we have to take the air out of it. We have to make humanity and kindness to each other..the new norm.” Gary Vaynerchuk
  • Don’t let negative comments knock you down
    • “Why value other people’s opinions when nobody really knows each other” – Gary Vaynerchuk
  • Don’t put out social media content with the intention to put others down
    • Post content that encourages people to be happy and kind

Intro

Be Humble & Authentic

  • Gary encourages more people to be humble
    • “I hope they realize they don’t need much to live a happy life” Gary Vaynerchuk
      • “Long before there was Instagram or Facebook, people were buying things they couldn’t afford to impress people they deep-down resented”
        • Stop keeping up with the Joneses or flexing on social media
  • If you’ve failed that’s okay–failure makes you grow a thick skin
    • “All that failing made me a fucking rock” – Gary Vaynerchuk
  • Be authentic with your audience  
    • “Go to the truth of who you actually are” – Gary Vaynerchuk
      • That includes your actions: “Expose your scar, show your burn mark”

Gary’s New Goal– Redefining Success

  • Gary wants to help redefine success as happiness not wealth
    • “Unfortunately, success is around stature, power, money, and we have to take the air out of it. We have to make humanity and kindness to each other..the new norm.” Gary Vaynerchuk
      • Think about how better the world would be if people stopped chasing money and sought out happiness instead

Life Advice

  • Don’t let negative comments knock you down
    • “Why value other people’s opinions when nobody really knows each other” – Gary Vaynerchuk
  • Don’t put out social media content with the intention to put other people down
    • Gary travels to new places, eat fancy food, and lives a good life, but he doesn’t post any of that
      • Post content that encourages people to be happy and kind
        • “Not lifestyles of the rich and famous…how do we make nice fucking cool as fuck” – Gary Vaynerchuk
          • Going to Vegas to party and hang out with strippers is fun, but helping people out feels much better and lasts longer
  • Human behavior changes based on positive and negative feedback
    • Men stopped cat-calling women because it was looked down upon
      • People need to give positive feedback to people who do something nice for someone, like helping an old lady with her luggage on a plane

Additional Notes

  • Gary’s favorite compliment is when people tell him he just talks about the same things. Why?
    • Gary only wants to talk about things he knows about 
      • “Talk about what you know and own your shit” – Gary Vaynerchuk
  • Gary knows that if he passed away people would probably forget about him in a few months or so, but at the same time, he’s trying to do the best to have the biggest positive impact possible
    • Pick a mission and go all-in on it
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Notes By Alex Wiec

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