8 Success Hacks That Will Level Up Your Life | Tom Bilyeu on Impact Theory

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Key Takeaways

  • The 20-20-20 Formula for an ideal morning:
    • Spend 20 minutes exercising
    • Spend 20 minutes reflecting (journal, meditate, visualize)
    • Spend 20 minutes growing (read books, listen to podcasts, etc.)
  • What you value determines where you invest your time, energy, and resources so take some time and access what you value
  • If you want to understand why you behave the way you do, ask yourself these questions:
    • Which parent’s love did you crave the most?
    • Who did you have to become to get their love?
    • And what else?
  • Affirmations are meant to help you direct your focus, not manifest your desires out of thin air
  • Here’s how to get a raise:
    • 1) Send an email to your boss asking if you could meet to discuss what it takes to be a top performer
    • 2) In the meeting, ask for specific feedback on how you could provide more value and set high goals 
    • 3) Tell your boss you’d like to discuss a salary bump 6 months from now and send your boss a weekly update on how you’re performing
      • After the 6 months, if you performed well, your boss will recognize your additional contributions and more likely give you a raise

Intro

The Ideal Morning Routine

  • One of the secrets to becoming legendary is longevity–Top performers are better at energy management than time management
    • You need to optimize your energy and time 
  • Exercise in the morning: It reduces cortisol and gets your blood pumping
  • Do deep work is early in the morning because most of the world is still sleeping so you’ll have fewer distractions
  • The 20-20-20 Formula for an ideal morning: Spend 20 minutes exercising
  • Spend 20 minutes reflecting (journal, meditate, visualize)
  • Spend 20 minutes growing (read books, listen to podcasts, etc.)
  • “One of the keys to epic performance is a relentless commitment to daily growth” – Robin Sharma

Practice Gratitude

  • When something bad happens to you, you get to choose how you want to respond–You can be upset or you can do what you can to make the best out of the situation
  • Competition is about the person best suited for the task winning, that may not be you
    • Make a conscious choice to focus on what you have already and be grateful for it

Define Your Values

  • “What we are is just an aggregation of what we choose to value in this world” – Mark Manson
    • If you value money more than anything, that will define your actions and lifestyle
      • What you value determines where you invest your time, energy and resources so take some time and access what you value
  • If you want to change your values, you need to spend some time visualizing them and imagining how life would be different with new values

Think Backwards

  • Start with the end in mind–Visualize the future and think of what you need to do to get there (best-case scenarios) and about what could stop you from getting to your goal (worst-case scenarios) 
    • Once you have a clear vision, return to the present, draw up a plan of what needs to get done to get there and then get to work
      • “The more you care, the more you prepare” – Dame Dash

Don’t Crave Love

  • If you want lasting success, it’s going to take years of work
  • If you want to understand why you behave the way you do, ask yourself these questions:
    • Which parent’s love did you crave the most?
    • Who did you have to become to get their love?
    • And what else?
      • For Rachel, she craved her dad’s love, had to become an overachiever to get his love, and had to stay small since her dad believed children should be seen and not heard
  • Love yourself so that you don’t need to shape yourself into something you aren’t just to gain approval from others

Use Affirmations

  • Birth and death are the two sides of life, don’t fear either 
  • Affirmations are meant to help you direct your focus, not manifest your desires out of thin air
    • By directing your focus, you’ll know what behaviors you need to change and what actions you need to take to achieve your goal

How To Get A Raise

  • Asking for a raise actually increases your value in your boss’ eyes because usually, it’s top performers that ask for raises
  • Here’s how to get a raise:
    1. Send an email to your boss asking if you could meet to discuss what it takes to be a top performer
    2. In the meeting, ask for specific feedback on how you could provide more value and set high goals 
    3. Tell your boss you’d like to discuss a salary bump 6 months from now and send your boss a weekly update on how you’re performing.
      • After the 6 months, if you performed well, your boss will recognize your additional contributions and more likely give you a raise

Practice Meditation

  • Meditation isn’t a female-only activity–Plenty of men do it, think of it as Jiu-Jitsu for the mind
    • Instead of physically fighting, you’re mentally fighting–Fighting your thoughts, assumptions, and illusions