The Pressure of Winning and How to Handle Losing with Kelley O’Hara and Gabby Reece on The Gabby Reece Show

Check out the Episode Page & Show Notes

Key Takeaways

  • Self-confidence and self- worth come from within
  • “The only person that will always be there for me is me” – Kelley O’Hara
  • Emotion is part of being an athlete – it’s natural
  • Know that acceptance from your team or “tribe” matters more than what others think of you
  • Sometimes just believing is what you need
  • If you’re new on a team, learn from the veterans, on and off the field  

Books mentioned

  • Natural Born Heroes by Christopher McDougall  – how to master the secrets of strength and endurance

Products Mentioned

  • Beast – personal care products

Intro

Kelley O’Hara (@kelleymohara) is a two-time women’s World Cup champion and U.S. soccer Olympian.

Dealing with High Expectations

  • “I have a chip on my shoulder, I want to prove myself. I know I may not be the best, but I can control my effort” – Kelley O’Hara
  • If you’re new on a team, learn from the veterans, on and off-field but when it comes down to playing, go for it
  • Fight for yourself, don’t back down

Intensity- How it Arises and Affects Relationships

  • Kelley Is naturally competitive- she made everything a competition including even eating a sandwich in grade school
  • That approach doesn’t always bring out the best in Kelley, but it’s the reason why she believes she’s successful
  • The intensity can affect relationships. When younger, Kelley says she was intense and stubborn all the time
  • Though friendships and family relationships she learned – being stubborn doesn’t always win

Techniques to Deal With Disappointment

  • “The amount of times I cried in hotel stairwells is more than I can count. I had to talk myself out of crying in front of coaches, because I wanted it so badly” – Kelley O’Hara
  • Its okay to cry out your disappointment, and then go back to work the next day
  • Emotion is part of being an athlete – it’s human and natural
  • Time and maturity help

Pursuing Your Passion

  • Kelley played a lot of sports but chose soccer because she liked the team aspect of the sport
  • As soon as she made Youth National camp when 15, she said she knew she wanted to go all the way
  • By her senior year at college, Kelley knew she could play for a professional team
  • Kelley didn’t worry about what she’d do upon graduation. “I asked myself, what do I have to do to be good enough?” – Kelley O’Hara
  • Even as a kid, when she failed, Kelley would ask herself– what do I need to do next time?

Training Tips

  • Until she became a professional athlete, Kelly didn’t understand conditioning, strengthening, monitoring or heart rate and load
  • The intensity of competition changed the way she approached fitness
  • Be very specific about the speed you work out at and your heart rate
  • It is a challenge to train when you are not 100% but you can trick yourself to getting excited.
  • Remind yourself that training is a privilege and maximize it.

Handling the Media as an Athlete

  • The US women’s team has been so successful and excellence is expected
  • “I turn off social media. Some players like it, it fires them up.  But so many people said were saying we would lose the World Cup – why do I need to see that?” – Kelley O’Hara
  • Just because someone says something it doesn’t have to be part of your narrative
  • As humans, we crave to know what others think of us, but all you need is acceptance from your team or “tribe”

Words of Wisdom for Athletes

  • Self-confidence and self- worth come from within-don’t look for outside sources – The only person that will always be there for me is me.” – Kelley O’Hara
  • Look inside yourself, look in the mirror and believe in what you see and who you are

Future Plans

  • When I first started my professional career, I felt like I couldn’t do anything else – I know this has an expiration date” – Kelley O’Hara
  • She has an interest in business
  • Kelley isn’t sure about coaching – “I think I’d be stressed out”

Gabby Reece Show : , , , , , ,
Notes By EWerbitsky

More Notes on these topics

Top Insights and Tactics From

31 Best Podcasts of All Time

FREE when you join over 12,000 subscribers to the
Podcast Notes newsletter

No Thanks