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Why Your Mindset Matters if You Want Health And Wealth – Tom Bilyeu on The Doctor’s Farmacy, Hosted by Dr. Mark Hyman

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Key Takeaways

  • There’s a big difference between ambition and drive
    • Ambition means you have big dreams; drive means you’re willing to work to achieve that dream
  • Where you are today doesn’t matter; what matters is where you want to go and if you’re willing to pay the price to get there
  • Praise the process, not the results
  • “When you change your physical state, you change your mental state”Dr. Mark Hyman
    • If you want to change your thoughts, change your body
  • If your siblings are overweight, you’re 40% more likely to be overweight. If your friends are overweight, you’re 171% more likely to be overweight!
    • In other words, you become the average of those you hang out with
  • The purpose of life is to become fulfilled
    • Fulfillment comes from developing a set of hard-to-acquire skills that matter to you, which allow you to serve not only yourself but also other people

Intro

Books Mentioned

  • Tom highly recommends reading Mindset by Carol Dweck

Let’s Kick This Off

  • There’s a big difference between ambition and drive
    • Ambition means you have big dreams; drive means you’re willing to work to achieve that dream
  • “The money isn’t guaranteed, but the struggle is”Tom Bilyeu
  • The cliche is true: Money can do a lot, but it won’t always make you happy

Quest Nutrition 

  • Tom co-founded the company because he wanted to create a healthy snack that actually tasted good
  • Early on at Quest, Tom hired several ex-convicts because he believed: Where you are today doesn’t matter; what matters is where you want to go and if you’re willing to pay the price to get there
    • Of course, a few of the hires turned out to be bad apples, but many of the ex-cons were great employees
  • When it was acquired, Quest was valued at $1 billion
    • As a co-founder, this made Tom quite wealthy and gave him the freedom to pursue his first passion – art

Your Mindset Matters

  • “The brain isn’t designed to maximize your status in the group; it’s designed to keep you alive” – Tom Bilyeu
    • For the longest time, taking risks and doing things out of the ordinary was a high-risk activity that could be determinantal to your survival (being alienated by your tribe was a near-death sentence)
  • Too many people have a fixed mindset instead of a growth mindset
    • Fixed mindset: This is who I am and I can’t get better ever
    • Growth mindset: I am this now, but if I work hard I can get better
      • “The only belief that matters is that you can improve”Tom Bilyeu
  • Praise the process, not the results
    • Example: Praise your kids for studying hard, not just for getting good grades

Changing Your Mindset 

  • Tom is a big fan of David Foster Wallace’s speech, This is Water
    • “Your mindset is the water; it’s the thing in which you exist”Tom Bilyeu
      • “It is a belief system, it is your values”
  • People who change their life do so in one of two ways:
    • They change their mindset
    • They change their behavior
  • Going further:
    • Simple behavioral changes, such as faking a smile, will actually make you happier
    • One of the best ways to cease your frustration about something is to start laughing out loud, even if it’s a fake laugh
    • “When you change your physical state, you change your mental state”Dr. Mark Hyman
      • If you want to change your thoughts, change your body
      • If you want to change your body, change your thoughts
  • Humans are the ultimate adaption machine
    • Tom & Mark recall the story of one woman swimming the Bering Strait from Alaska to Russia. To prepare for the swim, she slept in Alaska with her window open for months to adapt to the cold.

The Purpose of Life

  • The purpose of life isn’t to acquire money, it’s to become fulfilled:
    • Fulfillment comes from developing a set of hard-to-acquire skills that matter to you, which allow you to serve not only yourself but also other people
  • At the end of the day, the only thing that really matters is how you feel about yourself

Love is the Answer

  • “A woman’s biggest sex organ is between her ears”Dr. Mark Hyman
    • In other words, if you want to turn a woman on, listen and build trust with her
  • A sign of a good relationship: When your partner feels better about themselves when they’re with you
  • “Love is medicine” Dr. Mark Hyman
    • People need touch and love to survive

Additional Notes

  • “Your zip code is more determinant of your future success than your IQ”Tom Bilyeu
  • In the past, Tom has experimented with microdosing psilocybin
  • If your siblings are overweight, you’re 40% more likely to be overweight. If your friends are overweight, you’re 171% more likely to be overweight!
    • In other words, you become the average of those you hang out with
  • Find areas in life where you get a disproportionate return on your work
  • If someone compliments you, say thank you; if someone criticizes you, say thank you 
    • In either situation, avoid putting too much weight in what other people think of you 
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Notes By Alex Wiec

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