You’re Living on Borrowed Time – Kapil Gupta on The Crazy Wisdom Podcast, Hosted By Stewart Alsop III

Key Takeaways

  • You’re living on borrowed time. Death, for every single person, comes too soon.
    • “One of the hardest things to do is viscerally understand the fact that we’re going to die … It’s instinctive to believe that because you had the day before, and because you had yesterday, and because you have today that you’ll have tomorrow.”Kapil Gupta
  • The search for happiness will only lead you to pain
  • Ask yourself and answer these two questions honestly:
    • “What do I truly want out of life?
    • “What are the empty chases that I’m imprisoned to?”
  • “The most pressing questions in your life are the things that have already happened to you—the things you find yourself already engaged in without ever having to ask the question” – Kapil Gupta

Intro

Don’t Chase the Void

  • Last night, Stewart claims he experienced what people call “the void” (which sounds like a state of mindlessness)
    • That said, one should never chase this feeling: “The experience is a chase … Who cares? So you felt good for a brief moment, big deal? You didn’t get anywhere; you came back to who you were—so what’s the point?” – Kapil Gupta
  • “Any sort of judgment, scorecard-keeping, or any recognition or evaluation of progress is a pleasure chase. It’s all one big pleasure chase.” – Kapil Gupta

Only the Truth Matters

  • Stewart is about to attend a 10-day silent meditation retreat
    • Kapil, as you might have guessed, isn’t a fan: “But it doesn’t matter what I believe. It matters where you are and what level of understanding that a person has. It doesn’t matter what I or anyone else believes; what matters is the truth.”

Has Kapil’s understanding of ‘The Truth’ changed at all within the last month?

  • “It’s not about changing your understanding of truth; it’s about a constant examination and a deeper and deeper un-layering of truth in whatever direction one happens to be pursuing in his life.” Kapil Gupta

Why do humans constantly judge?

  • “The human mind has been conditioned by society to categorize things and view them through the lens of good vs. bad and right vs. wrong”Kapil Gupta
  • Can’t we just decide to stop judging?
    • You can’t force it – putting forth the intentional, conscious effort to do so is just a prescription
    • Once you come to realize the superfluousness of judging others, the “giving it up” happens all by itself
    • Kapil adds: “A thing that’s forced isn’t natural … There are always repercussions for things that are done out of force and prescription as opposed to understanding, naturalness, genuineness, inevitability, and truth.” 

Forget the Spiritual Jargon; You’re Running Out of Time

  • “Everyone’s time is running out. It’s really about understanding that we’re all living on borrowed time. Luxuriating into, “What is this, and what is that?” from an intellectual/spiritual/consciousness perspective is really a reflection that one doesn’t understand they that don’t have time.” – Kapil Gupta
    • 🎧 “One of the hardest things to do is viscerally understand the fact that we’re going to die; it’s a very difficult place to arrive on a visceral level … It’s instinctive to believe that because you had the day before, and because you had yesterday, and because you have today that you’ll have tomorrow.”

Seeking Happiness Only Leads to Pain

  • “The mind is habituated to search for and seek pleasure, and happiness is society’s sanctioned form of pleasure.” – Kapil Gupta
    • Through spirituality, everyone seeks happiness because it’s believed to be the most natural and fruitful pursuit, but Kapil has a different view: “It’s actually the forbidden fruit; it’s the way to pain.” 

Let’s Address the Silence

  • If you happen to listen to this podcast, you’ll notice the long gaps of silence
    • Stewart: “I don’t really have anything to say”
    • Kapil: “The curious thing is that in other podcasts, you have things to say”
    • Stewart: “Yeah, but I know which questions to which you’ll respond, ‘That’s a bullsh** question.’ Most of the questions coming to my mind are bullsh** questions.”
    • Kapil: “So how do you reconcile that? Why, in other podcasts, do you have things to say, but in our conversations, you don’t?”
  • Digging deeper: In conversation, people fell a social compulsion to fill silence (which they do with mostly bullsh**, yet intellectually entertaining, content)
    • Don’t lie to yourself: Most conversation serves as an escape to the most pressing questions in your life. What are those pressing questions?
      • “The most pressing questions in your life are the things that have already happened to you—the things you find yourself already engaged in without ever having to ask the question”Kapil Gupta

Be Honest with Yourself

  • Ask yourself and answer these two questions honestly:
    • “What do I truly want out of life?
    • “What are the empty chases that I’m imprisoned to?”
      • Kapil adds: “If there’s a sincere desire to discover one’s empty chases, it doesn’t take long to figure out what they are”
  • “It’s about a human being becoming real and true, discovering what they want out of life, their chases, and where they’re headed. It’s about becoming honest with absolutely no compulsion that doing so is the ‘good’ thing to do. The ‘goodness’ and ‘badness’ is completely a false idea. It’s truth, and truth isn’t spirituality; spirituality is untruth.” – Kapil Gupta

Additional Notes

  • The solution lies in discovering the problem (and the problem is never what you think it is)
  • “Truth is the only thing there is. There is nothing else. What else can there be besides truth?” – Kapil Gupta
  • Throughout life, no matter the activity, humans have an underlying fear of not being living up to their desired self-image