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Kapil Gupta: Is it possible to stop wasting one’s life? – Crazy Wisdom

Key Takeaways

  • “It comes down to knowing you have X number of years left to live; how many more of those years are you willing to spend chasing fruitless things, believing nonsense, following prescriptions, and WASTING your life?”
  • Someone resorts to a belief when they “do not know”
    • Either you know, or you don’t know – “To believe is a cop-out”
  • “All things happen of their own accord when the requisite degree of sincerity and seriousness arises”
  • One can only discover the TRUTH on their own
    • “The most fruitful and effective thing you could be engaged in is the thing you don’t really want to do which is to look at yourself”
  • “EVERYTHING has a 2+2=4; where the 2 and 2 are satisfied, the 4 is inevitable”
  • “You have to see society for what it is… It’s all drivel. EVERYONE is a liar. EVERYONE is a fraud, most prevalently to themselves.”
  • “Human beings UTTERLY and SHAMELESSLY WASTE THEIR LIVES. And a life is a VERY precious thing.”

Intro

Rapid Fire to Kick Things Off

  • How has Kapil’s day been?
    • “A day’s a day”
  • What drives Kapil to do what he does?
    • “The search for the truth is something that’s very deep in my bones… It’s my life’s devotion.”
  • How does Kapil spend most of his time?
    • Writing – “Writing is an exploration of truth”

How does one find meaning? (everyone is wasting their life)

  • “By looking at the acute events of their life, by looking at the things they’re doing, most importantly the motivation behind why they do the things they do, and determining if each is a chase for pleasure, a chase to nowhere, or if it’s something valuable that might actually lead you somewhere”
  • It’s about asking yourself:
    • “What is it that I want?”
      • “No one knows what they want. Everyone’s wants are a reaction to a non-want.”
        • For example – No one’s searching for happiness, they’re searching for an escape from misery
    • “What am I doing?”
    • “How am I missing the boat?”
  • Kapil adds – “EVERYONE’S missing the boat”
    • “It comes down to knowing you have X number of years left to live; how many more of those years are you willing to spend chasing fruitless things, believing nonsense, following prescriptions, and WASTING your life?”
      • Stop lying to yourself and admit that you’ve been wasting your life
    • People tend to believe that the following of a prescription actually goes somewhere – this then makes them feel as if they’re not wasting their life

Beliefs Are a Cop Out

  • “People are very tied to their beliefs. They equate belief with reality.”
  • Someone resorts to a belief when they “do not know”
    • Either you know, or you don’t know – “To believe is a cop-out”
  • Does Kapil have beliefs?
    • “Beliefs come, but they go through a filtering mechanism with an intent to destroy them”
      • “The desire to know the truth is infinitely greater for me than the desire to both hold on to and uphold a belief”

Ponder This One

  • “All things happen of their own accord when the requisite degree of sincerity and seriousness arises”

Screw the Prescriptions (but don’t make that a prescription)

  • If you have no idea what Kapil means by “prescription” check out these Podcast Notes (in short, a prescription is a “how-to”)
  • “If you don’t follow prescriptions because I say so, then you’re following a prescription”
  • “It’s about fundamentally understanding; it’s not about following people. It isn’t about listening to people; it’s about understanding the REAL thing going on.”
  • Do NOT take anything Kapil says at face value and follow blindly
    • Dig into it, dive deep, and search for understanding
  • 99.99% of people haven’t explored the truth enough to know whether it’s something they actually want
    • “To ask how to get it is extraordinary premature”
  • In reality, there’s nothing wrong with following prescriptions (“doing mindfulness,” working with meditation instructors, reading nonsense books, etc.), just be honest with yourself that you’re doing so
    • It’s OKAY to begin from here, but spend the actual time to examine your exact starting point
      • “To go off on a chase, to add even more prescriptions to the ones that have done nothing for you already is a WASTE of time”

Digging Deep

  • One can only discover the TRUTH on their own – not in lecture halls, not within a podcast, not in a conservation
    • “The most fruitful and effective thing you could be engaged in is the thing you don’t really want to do which is to look at yourself”
  • What does “looking at yourself” mean?
    • “To examine the lies and the chases, and if they are in fact ready, to stop chasing and stop lying. Almost no one is. That is why no one is ready to examine them.”
      • “People are very comfortable, continuing on with blindfolds in their small little lives, regurgitating nonsense, reading empty books, going to their instructors, practicing mindfulness, socializing the night away…. what reason is there to change?”

When do humans truly change?

  • “Human beings do not change course until their backs are against the wall and there’s a tiger at the bottom of the cliff”
    • There HAS to be a significantly powerful impetus for a transformation to even want to occur
      • Either the desire is part of your DNA, or it arises by way of circumstance

The Human Species

  • “Species isn’t relevant. I couldn’t care less about species. Species is a convenient way not to have to look at one’s self.”

Kapil Turns the Tables

  • He asks Stewart:
    • “What are you trying to get to in your life, whether it’s materialistic or so-called spiritual, whatever that means?”
    • “What are you looking for? What do you find yourself doing every single day?”
    • “If someone was to watch you, and they were allowed to write down one thing after having after observing you for a number of days – this is the thing you are most interested in as evidence of their observations – what one thing would they write down?”
    • “Why do you get out of bed every single day?”
  • Stewart answers:
    • The first question: Making money and becoming well-known
    • The third question: “Struggling” with an interest in creativity
  • Kapil responds – “You’re too caught by the spiritual bug. What would this non-spiritual, regular, run-of-the-mill human being write down? What would he, after examining your behavior and activities, and given the assignment of writing down the most prevalent thing he sees you doing, what would he say is your greatest desire/activity/pursuit?”
    • Stewart: Pursuing knowledge about how the brain and the body work on the computer
  • Why does Stewart do this? What is he looking for? (there must be a reason, or else he wouldn’t be doing it)
    • On a fundamental level, so he can teach others
    • To tie it all together – Stewart has the end goal of teaching courses to distributed companies about the brain & body
  • Kapil adds:
    • “Whatever you are pursuing, there is a truth that will lead to the fruition of that in its ultimate loom. There’s a truth to how it fails; there’s a truth to succeeding mildly. Truth is not spiritual. It is the only practical thing there is. Spirituality is completely and totally impractical. It is entirely theoretical and has no basis in reality because it has been mired in concepts and ideas.”
    • And the truth to how Stewart can succeed will only come through in-depth exploration
      • “The truth will come through the exploration and the nature of the exploration will depend upon the depth of the desire for the truth”

Direct Truths

  • “Everything that everyone does is meaningless. The only that matters is the thing that has the possibility of bringing deep and lasting satisfaction.”
    • What that is differs everyone, but – “Whatever you are chasing will not bring it to you because chases don’t bring satisfaction. Satisfaction happens when a thing comes to you, and a thing comes to you when it is attracted to you. It is attracted to you when you demonstrate a level for seriousness that is uncommon, and therefore you become a worthy repository for that thing.”
  • “The more you idealize a concept, the more you will lose your way”
  • “Everyone wants the truth about the thing they’re seeking; the greatest misconception is that the truth is spiritual”
  • Everything has a truth
    • “EVERYTHING has a 2+2=4; where the 2 and 2 are satisfied, the 4 is inevitable”

Can one human guide another without being prescriptive?

  • “You’d have to have two truly sincere human being in the room… two is hard to find”

By the Masses for the Masses

  • As for conferences… they’re for the masses
  • Books… are for the masses
    • And the author is very, very often one of the masses
  • “Everything is by the masses for the masses”
    • The masses seek prescriptions, and thus they get prescriptions
  • “You have to see society for what it is… It’s all drivel. EVERYONE is a liar. EVERYONE is a fraud.”

Kapil Gupta Tells the Podcast Industry What it Needs to Hear

  • “Every such conversation leaves you empty with nothing to show for your time… .the same as a social event, it leaves you empty. The pleasure comes, the pleasure goes. Then there is a massive void, a vacuum, which one is compelled to refill with another pleasure.”
    • “It is a race to zero; it’s all empty ego”
  • “Every podcast is a waste of time. Everyone talks nonsense. Listen to the radio. Listen to these talks. They’re laughing half the time talking about their previous experiences, making stupid jokes, ridiculous comments, asking empty questions about one’s favorite color and the best shot he ever hit and what he likes to do with his free time. I think suicide is better.”
  • “Human beings UTTERLY and SHAMELESSLY WASTE THEIR LIVES. And a life is a VERY precious thing.”
    • “Anything that is not done in order to gain some sense of permanence in one’s life is a waste of time. Anything that keep’s one on the hook for a chase that never ends is a waste of time.”
  • Kapil asks Stewart: “What are you possibly going to ask on all these shows? How is it possibly going to transform your life? And if it’s not going to, what’s the point?”

Wrapping Up

  • “You will never get your time back… You will one day arrive at the hour in which your time is up.”
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