The Importance of Online Friendships, Strength Training, and Advice for Men – Alexander Cortes on The Bobby Dino Podcast

Key Takeaways

  • The internet enables you to make friends with people from all corners of the world (and if you take it seriously, you can develop meaningful connections for life)
  • If you have a personal/online brand, you can’t take every comment to heart
    • “You have to love people and appreciate the people that look up to you, but also, at the same time, you have to almost hate people and not give a f**k about any of them” Alexander Cortes
  • A great quote from Clarence Thomas: “Good manners will open doors that the best education cannot”
    • Learn social skills and manners so you know how to interact properly with people (when people like you, they’ll go out of their way to help you)
  • When it comes to bench pressing: Incline bench >>> flat/decline bench

Intro

Books Mentioned

Make Friends Online

  • For most of human history, your friends were limited to your geographical location
    • Now, the internet enables you to make friends with people from all corners of the world (and if you take it seriously, you can develop meaningful connections for life)
  • There are two types of friendships: Ascending and descending
    • Ascending friendships are friends who push you and make your life better
    • Descending friendships are friends who drag you down and make your life worse
  • “You’re never going to beat your environment” – Alexander Cortes
    • That’s why it’s so important to change your environment for the better, and carefully choose the people you spend your time with
  • No matter who you are, eventually you’ll hit your level of competence and be forced to meet/learn from new people to get to the next level in life

Ambitions of Entrepreneur

  • Being an entrepreneur will force you to learn dozens of important skills:
    • How to gauge website traffic
    • How to write
    • How to sell
    • How to speak in front of large groups
    • How to tell stories
    • Social media
    • SEO
    • And the list goes on…
  • If you want to become more ambitious, become dissatisfied with your current life
    • “If you’re one of those people who can be comfortable anywhere, that kills your sense of vision. It kills your sense of desire to go after anything.” – Alexander Cortes

Online Brands & Mobs

  • Alexander has been mobbed (online) by social justice warriors several times
    • Once you hit a certain threshold of followers, it’s almost certain you’ll have people who disagree with you and/or hate you
    • It’s a shock at first, but if you’ve been attacked more than once and you’re still around, you become bulletproof 
      • “There’s nothing you can say to me now online that I’m going to get upset about”  – Alexander Cortes
        • Alexander estimates he’s gotten over a thousand messages telling him to kill himself
    • The takeaway: All publicity is good publicity
      • Getting attacked online just leads to more followers for Alexander
  • If you have a personal/online brand, you can’t take every comment to heart
    • “You have to love people and appreciate the people that look up to you, but also, at the same time, you have to almost hate people and not give a f**k about any of them” Alexander Cortes
    • You need to have a solid foundation of self-confidence if you’re going to have an online brand 

Advice for Men

  • It’s okay to show weakness to a close friend or your partner, but don’t show it outwardly to the world
  • A great quote from Clarence Thomas: “Good manners will open doors that the best education cannot”
    • Learn social skills and manners so you know how to interact properly with people (when people like you, they’ll go out of their way to help you)
      • Going further: “It’s not who you know, it’s who knows you… You need other people to get to the next level.” – Bobby Dino
  • Today is both the best and worst time to be a man
    • Every market (job, dating, etc.) is now a global competition
      • If you’re competent, you will be greatly rewarded 
      • If you’re unskilled, you will face tough times
    • “You have to hold yourself to high standards and embody those standards. You are not going to have a high standard of life with low standard living.”  – Alexander Cortes
      • “You are not going to tame greatness by being average” – Bobby Dino

Lifting Advice

  • When it comes to bench pressing: Incline bench > flat/decline bench
    • Tall individuals should avoid the flat bench because it hyper-extends their shoulders, which may result in injury
    • In general, most everyone should avoid the decline bench – the downward slope pushes your shoulders back, which can also lead to shoulder injuries
      • If you want to train your lower chest, just do dips or push-ups
  • You should be able to do bodyweight exercises with ease
    • If you can’t move your own skeleton, that’s an issue

Alexander’s Superpowers

  • Brutal consistency with work
  • Being able to write
  • Being confident
    • Confidence = Victories x Time
      • Building your body is an excellent way to gain victory (and thus confidence) – Stronger people are tougher, more resilient, harder to kill, and more useful in general

Additional Notes

  • Eastern European countries are nice places, but don’t expect special treatment there just because you’re American
    • Women in Eastern Europe tend to prefer masculine men
  • Alexander’s plan for 2020 is to live in South America and learn Spanish
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