July 10, 2019

Gary Vaynerchuck: The World Needs You – Aubrey Marcus Podcast

Check out the Aubrey Marcus Podcast Episode Page & Show Notes

Gary Vaynerchuck (Twitter, Instagram) is a serial entrepreneur and the CEO and co-founder of VaynerMedia. He’s the author of Crush It!, Crushing It!,The Thank You Economy, #AskGaryVee: One Entrepreneur’s Take on Leadership, Social Media, and Self-Awareness, Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook: How to Tell Your Story in a Noisy Social World, and Gary Vaynerchuk’s 101 Wines

Key Takeaways

• “I’m struggling to be unhappy because I’ve come to realize it’s unbelievable how simple my life is. If I genuinely wake up in the morning and 8 to 10 people are actually still alive, I’m just struggling to be upset about stuff.”
  • For this reason – being upset about something is just a failure of perspective
• “I think a bandwagon sports fan is one of the great tells of somebody who’s insecure”
  • How? – They attach their identity to an outside entity and their internal state relies on whether the team wins or loses
• You’ll never be happy if your happiness is predicated on likes and follows
• On social media and the internet – “We are living through the beginning of the platform that arguably is one of the five biggest inventions and impacts on humans… ever”
• “You’ll always be disappointed if you think some big force is going to save you… so just solve it for yourself.
• “We all are good at a couple of things. Spend all your f*cking time trying to figure out what you’re good at and if, God forbid, one of those things is something you actually like too, then you’re off to the f*cking races.”
• “If you know of one person that has ever gotten to a happy place that dealt with your circumstance, there is a blueprint. The end.”
• If you don’t let the accolades get to your head, it’s much easier to handle the hate
• On Judgement
  • Stop judging people
    • “It’s hard enough to know ourselves let alone anyone else” – Aubrey
    • Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about
  • “The great blessing of my life is that I don’t judge myself”
    • “Everyone’s tearing themselves down. What the f*ck are you doing that for? Everybody else is doing it for you. Stop beating yourself up.”
• On the ego:
  • “Ego is insecurity with makeup on”
  • “Do not f*cking confuse confidence with ego. Ego is f*cking insecurity. It is not confidence.”
• “I think we have an entire generation of people that are trying to be successful and I have enormous ambition to redefine it. I just really want people to be happy. It’s so much more fun to be happy.”
• You will NEVER have life figured out
  • “Whoever you are today is tomorrow’s idiot” – Aubrey
• “When people say to me, ‘What does success look?” I always say the same thing pretty consistently – being able to wake up and do whatever the f*ck I want whenever I want”‘
• Your struggles are NOT the finish line – it’s NEVER too late to change your life 
• “There’s a lot of people right now really struggling with their transition because they have a negative mother or father and it’s a force in their life that is really f*cking them up. I don’t think you need to cut out dad, but maybe you don’t have to answer every one of his calls when you know the call is going to be negative.”
• America is losing its position as the number one alpha in the world (and China is taking its place)