Kapil Gupta: The Secrets of Siddha Performance – The Hardy Haberland Show

Key Takeaways

  • “If we discover the things in a humans being’s life that they really excel at or never really have many problems in, it’s the things in which they do not seek prescriptions”
  • Problems are not meant to be fixed, they are meant to be understood
  • No person becomes world class by following a set of directions
    • You become world class by having the DNA of true genuine desire to reach a certain point
    • “You cannot meditate your way to enlightenment, you cannot morning routine your way to wisdom”
  • Kapil’s “advice” to entrepreneurs:
    • “You will avoid an enormous host of problems if you do things according to purity, according to what you really want to do, as opposed to chasing rewards, money, and outcomes”
  • “A life worth living is a life in which the chase for happiness comes to an end”
    • “Every single thing you do in your life, every single action, from the moment you wake up out of your bed, and even after you go to sleep, is a chase for pleasure”

Intro

Finding the Truth

  • Everybody attacks problems through the lens of fixes, behavior changes, and prescriptions
  • “If we discover the things in a humans being’s life that they really excel at or never really have many problems in, it’s the things in which they do not seek prescriptions”
  • “Everything in this society is based upon the premise and tenant that one must do in order to achieve or fix to arrive at a cure”
    • But this won’t get you anywhere – it’s all a a game
  • Human beings chase their entire lives, never really arriving at the source

“Every Fix Creates a New Problem”

  • “A fix is always a Band-Aid”
  • “Problems that exist are not problems to be fixed, they are problems to be understood
    • It’s in discovering the source from which a problem arose that it goes away
    • “If a problem wasn’t fixed into creation, it cannot be fixed into oblivion”

If You’re Not Genuine, Don’t Do It

  • “Everything that is not genuine, fails. Anything done by way of a 5-step plan, is not genuine.”
    • Why? – If it’s really crucial to you, you would never relegate it to a 5-step plan

Everything’s a Scam

  • The dogmas in any industry don’t arise from a place of seeking truth, they’re the result of decades of copycatting
    • “Things are never questioned, they’re continued”
  • Just because you’ve been in a field for 30 years doesn’t make you an expert
    • A true expert is born from someone who has questioned everything from the get go, and rejected all ideas until they’ve verified them for themself

Stop Going to Conferences

  • Kapil has said in the past that what’s talked about at conferences is “the old soup from yesterday’s leftovers”
  • “Anything done on a mass market scale…that’s not where things are really learned”
  • “People don’t become world class by sitting in a conference and taking notes….the deepest secrets of a profession are not given upon a conference stage”
    • “Even if a person gave every secret that they knew on a conference stage, it would not be recognized because the manner in which it would come across would be opaque…it wouldn’t be so easily understandable, a person would have to arrive at a certain level of competence to even understand what’s being said”

Avoid 5-Step Plans at All Cost

  • “No person becomes world class by following prescriptions or directions”
  • You become world class by having a DNA of true genuine desire to reach a certain point
    • This propels someone to dive into the deepest depths of their craft to discover how to arrive at the highest of heights
  • “Wherever you are given a method, you’re given a path to mediocrity”
  • “You cannot meditate your way to enlightenment, you cannot morning routine your way to wisdom
  • “Cultivating seriousness arises from sitting with yourself and really exploring what you truly want and where it is that you want to go”
  • “If you truly want something, that thing will never come by way of how-tos, prescriptions, and hacks”

Rules

  • Wherever there are rules or conditions, there cannot be truth
    • They’re just based upon false ideas that society itself creates
  • “If you handcuff someone, then you can only lead them in a direction that those handcuffs will allow”
    • It’s like the cars that drive on the tracks at amusement parks – they can’t drive on the real road, only the path that’s provided to them

Entrepreneurship

  • All business problems are people problems
  • Kapil’s “advice” to entrepreneurs:
    • “You will avoid an enormous host of problems if you do things according to purity, according to what you really want to do, as opposed to chasing rewards, money, and outcomes”

Meditation

  • There’s nothing at all wrong with meditation
  • But you need to consider – “What is it that I am really seeking and will meditation be the vehicle that actually leads me there?”
    • If you’re seeking some physiological benefits – go for it
    • Begin with the end in mind – “The end creates the beginning. The beginning does not create the end.”
  • But the problem – it’s described as something that takes you to places where it simply doesn’t take you
  • If you’re just doing it to add it to the “list of things you should do” – good luck
  • “You’re not going to become Buddha by reading a bumper sticker”
    • “Buddha spent 7 years in a forest drinking his own urine trying to become present and it didn’t work for him…and he meditated a LOT longer than you’re measly 10 minutes”

Patience

  • “It’s precisely when one’s impatient that he really gets somewhere”
    • If a person is walking through the dessert and is dying of thirst….they sure as hell won’t be patient
  • Patience is fine for things you don’t really care about

Hard Work & Practice

  • Kapil talked more about this in these Podcast Notes
  • Many people work hard just for the sake of working hard, more out of a function of anxiety/insecurity, rather than for the sake of truly arriving somewhere
    • This behavior is just the result of fear
    • “When that is the avenue or approach, it is always the false approach. It will just lead to more problems. It’s not pure. It’s just a reaction to fear and insecurity.”
      • It all just leads to endless struggle – but society says “struggle is good for you”…it’s not true
  • Instead – seek to truly understand  your anxieties/fears/insecurities, don’t fight them with struggle

Books

  • Are there any books worth reading? – Not really
    • It all depends why you’re asking in the first place
      • If you’re asking: “Is there anything I should read in order to arrive somewhere?” – No
      • If you’re asking: “Are there books out there that will provide valuable information?” – Sure
  • For the rare person out there, Kapil recommends:
    • “There are certain passages from The Bhagavad Gita that are ENORMOUSLY valuable… but one must spend nearly 30-40 years preparing themselves to actually imbibe what is really being said”
      • “Read to soon it will become an empty useless perception”
    • “Some of the writings of the ancient Zen, Chinese, and Japanese masters are enormously valuable”
    • Related – Hardy just read Freedom From the Known by Jiddu Krishnamurti

What does a life worth living look like?

  • “A life worth living is a life in which the chase for happiness comes to an end”
    • “Every single thing you do in life, every single action, from the moment you wake up, and even after you go to sleep, is a chase for pleasure”

Rapid Fire Questions

  • Some great movies which he found “to be true creations of art”:
  • The most important realization for Kapil in the last few years – “That there is nothing”
  • What would he tell his 20-year-old self?
    • “Whatever I would tell my 20-year-old self I would of had to, at 20-years-old, arrived to a certain level of wisdom to be able to imbibe…it isn’t about the information, it’s about the readiness of the person hearing the wisdom”
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