Mike Cernovich and Hardy Haberland: The Complete Guide to Winning in Your 20’s and 30’s – Mike Cernovich Podcast

Key Takeaways

  • Advice for young men:
    • Instead of hanging around people who just want to get drunk all the time, find people who spend their free time reading books, exercising, and improving themselves
    • Grind hard in your 20s so that can enjoy your 30s
    • Just like money compounds over time and it’s best to invest it as early as possible, the same is true about yourself – invest in your body and mind as early as you can
    • If you ever find yourself in a bad mood, go spend time alone – you don’t want to spread negativity or take your anger out on someone innocent
  • 3 Tips for building a personal brand:
    • Write about a life worth writing about
    • Be open and transparent
    • Be authentic

Intro

Mike’s Book Recommendations

Who is Mike Cernovich?

  • Mike and his 3 siblings grew up below the poverty line (his father made ~$10K a year), but fortunately, his grandparents helped support the family
    • Mike says he had a tough childhood – he grew up fat, poor, had asthma, and was bullied
    • Since Mike didn’t have much money as a kid, instead of taking boxing lessons, he read books on boxing and taught himself – “I was eight years old and at the library at my school just figuring it out…there’s endless material now that you can learn from”
  • Mike describes himself as high in openness and low in conscientiousness
    • This means he’s very curious but doesn’t pay much attention to himself/his surroundings
      • Mike’s openness led him to the field of journalism, a decision he doesn’t recommend because it’s a lot of stress, you become a target, your audience is mean, and you make little money

Fighting Advice

  • First, you have to condition your mind to face fear while also conditioning your body to withstand pain
    • But since your mind determines how much something hurts, it’s important to start with the mind
      • “Your mind has to learn how to push through the pain – your mind becomes tougher and then your body follows”

Advice For Young Men

  • Mike says his biggest mistake looking back was staying in a relationship that he knew wasn’t going to last – it’s especially hard breaking up with a girl that loves you, but you don’t feel the same way
    • Don’t worry about your ex-girlfriend having trouble finding someone new – it’s a lot easier for women to find a new guy than for guys to find a new woman
  • If you ever find yourself in a bad mood, go spend time alone – you don’t want to spread negativity or take your anger out on someone innocent
  • Men don’t peak till their late 20s (28-36 are usually a man’s prime)
    • Mike advises guys to not settle down in their early 20s because they have a better chance of finding a higher quality mate later on in life
  • When you’re in your 20s, you should seek out people who are ambitious and want to grow
    • Instead of finding people who just want to get drunk all the time, find people who spend their free time reading books, exercising and improving themselves
  • In your 20s – “You need to be grinding all the time”
    • Work hard in your 20s and become successful so you can enjoy your 30s, find an awesome like partner, and have a great life
      • Just like money compounds over time and is best to invest as early as possible, the same is true about yourself – invest in your body and mind as early as you can
        • Learning is also easier when you’re younger, your memory is strong and your brain is still a sponge
  • Read multiple different genres – philosophy, fitness, fiction, psychology, persuasion, etc
    • Mike has a 5 Book Rule – try to read 5 books in a given category
      • You won’t be the world’s expert, but you’ll be ahead of most people
      • Mike recommends reading Great Dialogues of Plato to improve your ability to think and debate

Improving Your Mindset

  • Mindset is learnable – it’s a skill that can be learned
    • There are two main mindsets: Defense and Offense
      • One is about surviving life, the other is about thriving
        • With an offensive mindset, you can always spin a negative event into a positive one – ex. Hard times will make you a stronger person in the future
  • Hard work will pay off
    • Creating a film or a book “isn’t fun most days, and overall pretty demoralizing” but in the end, the hard work pays off – even if it takes years
    • Ex. – “It takes 3-5 years to have a really nice body, and that’s if you’re training hard”
  • When you become successful, you forget all of the bad experiences from your past
    • All of the hard work, grinding, and tough times from the past will disappear because those negative experiences will become positive since it led you to become successful

Building A Personal Brand

  • Your personal brand should be about the things you are doing or know how to do
    • Either become a great writer or live a life worth writing about– as a personal brand, you should be doing both
      • “No one wants to read about a mediocre or boring life, you have to really push and challenge yourself”
        • Also write about your failures, people love “mistake porn” – it’s authentic, honest, and interesting to readers
        • 3 Tips – Write about a life worth writing about, be open/transparent, and be authentic

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