Wild Freedom: The Story of Attachment – A Solo Podcast with Kapil Gupta

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Key Takeaways

  • If you truly want the truth about something, there’s NO ONE who can help you
    • It’s up to YOU
  • “Raw freedom, wild freedom, is freedom from the need to have to fix anything. It is freedom from the very arising of pain. It is freedom from the impetus that spawns emotional turmoil. It is the freedom from the very seed of the devastation that human beings feel. It is a return back to one’s natural state before he succumbed to the images that led to the soap operas in which he finds himself living.”
    • “Raw freedom, wild freedom, is a state in which one understands that he has entered into soap operas, and in these soap operas of identity and image, NOTHING will ever be alright
  • Attachment is need
    • Whenever one is attached, then the thing or the person to which one is attached to will be the puppeteer and you will be the puppet
  • “When one is no longer attached to needing respect, love, or reciprocation, or for someone else to make him happy…when one is no longer attached to the idea of happiness itself…he becomes wildly free”

Intro

A Great Crime

  • “I wish the Buddhists and those who claim to be truly committed to helping humanity with the problems of a human being’s life were actually as committed as they claim”
    • These people are just in a world of culture and prescription
    • “If they themselves succumb to what the rest of society succumbs to, then what they do is simply another example of that what society does. And they’re supposed to be the ones that help man escape from the binds of society and the imprisonments of himself.”
  • The real crime – “The human beings who claim to devote themselves have allowed themselves to succumb, just like everyone else…making them just as common as the common man”

A Reminder

  • “If you truly want the truth about something, there’s NO ONE who can help you”
    • You’re on your own
    • Prescriptions will get you no where

The Road Away From Freedom

  • As a small child, a human being is free
    • As he grows, he develops an identity – a name, a whereabouts, who his family is, and his role within the family 
      • “Something happens to him along the way, and he doesn’t really know the day it happened, but from that moment forward he enters into a dimension of life which is an ENTIRELY FALSE dimension, and in doing …he leaves freedom completely behind”

The Family Soap Opera

  • In a way, the family structure is like a soap opera (or a circus)
    • But we, stuck in our identities, don’t see it this way – we see it as reality
  • “Within the family structure, many things begin to go wrong…there’s this complex web of interconnections. But these interconnections are not interconnections of humans, they are interconnections of MINDS.”
    • Each mind is caught in a web of attachment
      • “Each person is attached to his/her own idea as to what the other person should do. Ultimately, that attachment is based upon a foundation of the desire to make oneself ‘happy.’ That happiness won’t come unless things happen in a certain way…which are dependent upon the other person/persons acquiescing to that certain way.”
        • All of this leads to expectations –> then conflict –> then sorrow, anger, anxiety, fear —> and finally resentments/pain

The Imprisonment of the Fixes

  • “A human being begins to live in this way for so long that this becomes real to him…this becomes his new life, and his ONLY life”
    • So we seek fixes as to how to gain freedom from all this anxiety/fear/conflict
      • This creates a new subset of imprisonment – aka the imprisonment of the fixes
        • Each fix leads to a different imprisonment 
        • You’re led down this road of self-help, doing X to get Y, prescriptions, trying different morning routines, going to a guru or meditation teacher….leading to more imprisonment
        • “This person enters this washing machine for which he rolls around for years and years and years”

Wild Freedom

  • “The truth is there is no way to prescribe oneself into freedom. There’s only a way to prescribe oneself into imprisonment.”
  • To arrive at freedom, you have to understand what freedom really is
    • “Raw freedom, wild freedom, is freedom from the need to have to fix anything. It is freedom from the very arising of pain. It is freedom from the impetus that spawns emotional turmoil. It is the freedom from the very seed of the devastation that human beings feel. It is a return back to one’s natural state before he succumbed to the images that led to the soap operas in which he finds himself living.”
      • But this freedom does not exist in society or in the halls of monasteries – “It exists only as a possibility in the one who TRULY desires it…not for the pleasure it will bring, but because it will bring an end to the search for ALL pleasure”
    • “Raw freedom, wild freedom, is a state in which one understands that he has entered into soap operas, and in these soap operas of identity and image, NOTHING will ever be alright”

Attachment

  • “Attachment is need”
  • Kapil has some recent tweets related to this:
    • “Those whom you love will be the source of your suffering”
    • “What a man becomes attached to, becomes his coffin”
  • “Whenever one is attached, then the thing or the person to which one is attached to will be the puppeteer and you will be the puppet”
    • THAT is attachment
    • However the other person or thing moves will be the way the person himself moves
  • “Where there is attachment there cannot be freedom”
    • Why? – One’s needs are invested in the other person/thing
  • How can one not be attached to their family or children?
    • “To have a child is to give oneself to the child, and need nothing in return from the child” – Read this SLOWLY and CAREFULLY

Look in the Mirror

  • “If one views genuinely with open eyes exactly where one is, he sees that he is trapped. And he’s trapped in such profound misery, anxiety, and fear…that he doesn’t know which way is up anymore.”

Wrapping Up

  • “When one is no longer attached to needing respect, love, or reciprocation, or for someone else to make him happy…when one is no longer attached to the idea of happiness itself…he becomes wildly free”

These notes were edited by RoRoPa Editing Services

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