Lunch is For Wimps – A Solo Podcast with Kapil Gupta

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Key Takeaways

  • “The person who is elite in his domain has a lot to lose by socializing”
    • It is almost certain that the majority of the people he/she socializes with are going to bring him/her down in ways that he/she does not realize 
  • “If you examine what you say at these parties, and the things that you discuss, and the jokes that you laugh at, and the topics that are talked about, it’s all DRIVEL. Of what meaning is it?! Of what significance is it?! What is it besides just passing time?!”
    • The danger – Each time you are exposed to this drivel, you imbibe subconsciously things that take the edge off your uniqueness and rarity
  • Social media is an insult to human life
    • “Posting pictures of silly things, and people talking about them walking their dog…this is valuable human time that NEVER returns that is being spent on frivolousness”
  • “Quality of life is really a matter of engagement – how lost and engaged you are in the creation of something, not that the creation of it, to be honest, actually matters”
    • “The quality of the life, is at its peak, when someone is fully engaged in something”
  • “Socialization is a complete waste of time. It is the filling of empty space.”

Intro

“Lunch is For Wimps”

  • This is a quote from Gordon Gekko, a character from Oliver Stone’s movie Wall Street
  • “The quote is symbolic for the idea of socialization, and the truth that those who truly become great, tend to be against the grain in every way, not the least of which is isolating themselves from the traditions and the common ways of people in society”
  • The question is not whether or not you should socialize – there is no right or wrong, remember that
    • “Rather, it’s about understanding that society can only bring someone down”

The Problem with Socialization

  • Among elite circles, in business, and sports, and all domains, the natural way of being is to get together, to socialize, to have a cocktail party, or group dinners
    • “There’s nothing wrong with that or right with that, but something often goes missed, and that is that those things are seen as completely harmless and/or a way to derive a sense of pleasure without producing any untoward side effects – I think that’s a mistake”
  • “The recognition that socialization has a cost, is a recognition that is lost on the vast majority of people”
    • The fact of the matter is, socialization is not harmless
  • “Whatever environment an organism exposes him or herself to, that organism has no choice whatsoever whether he or she will become conditioned by that environment”
    • “No one is powerful enough to remain immune to conditioning” – That’s a truth that needs to be realized

But is this advice for everyone?

  • No – only the elite, only those with the rarest of DNA
    • This advice is NOT for the masses
  • “The person who is elite in his domain has a lot to lose by socialization”
    • It is almost certain that the majority of the people he or she socializes with are going to bring him down in ways that he does not realize 
      • But not realizing it, is the danger 
    • “Human beings will always regress towards the mean”
      • Just like how water, over time, erodes rock – that rock has no choice but to be eroded

Socialization Has a Cost

  • “If you examine what you say at these parties, and the things that you discuss, and the jokes that you laugh at, and the topics that are talked about, it’s all DRIVEL. Of what meaning is it?! Of what significance is it?! What is it besides just passing the time?!”
    • “These are very low level things, for someone himself, who isn’t low level”
  • The danger – Each time you are exposed to this drivel, you imbibe subconsciously things that take the edge off your uniqueness
    • You’re dulling the sharpness of your rarity
    • “The very recognition that your uniqueness, and rarity, and originality…that those things are at risk, changes the game”
      • Realizing this – you’re more apt to not view socialization as harmless
  • “EVERYTHING in this life has a cost”
    • Socialization, certainly fits in this bucket
  • “Virtually all the friends that an elite person has, are not to his benefit, they are to his detriment. They are bringing him down, whether he realizes it or not.”

Let’s Make this Clear

  • “Overall, socialization is an incredible waste of time”
    • Unless of course, you need to meet someone/make a particular connection – then fine, that’s strategic and potentially beneficial
      • In a situation like this, you’re socializing with a particular focus, or with your eyes open, as opposed to “going in unguarded”
      • “Going in unguarded is when the floor falls out. That’s when problems arise. Whatever you do with open eyes tends to not hurt you. The things that you are unaware of, the things you become blindsided by, those things happen as a result of not knowing the domain of which you’re walking into.”

Social Media

  • “Much of social media is an insult”
    • “Posting pictures of silly things, and people talking about them walking their dog…this is valuable human time that NEVER returns that is being spent on frivolousness”
  • “The addiction to smartphones, and the internet…the proliferation of these things is an enormous cost to the quality of human life”
    • “Human beings just waste their lives, across the board”
      • EVERYONE 
      • The realization that you are wasting your life on these things is a GAME CHANGER

Wrapping Up

  • “Socialization is a complete waste of time. It is the filling of empty space. And frankly so is the idea of productivity. Productivity is busy work. So what if you got 20 things done today. Most of those things aren’t significant anyways.”
  • “Quality of life is really a matter of engagement – how lost and engaged you are in the creation of something, not that the creation of it, to be honest, actually matters”
    • “The quality of the life, is at its peak, when someone is fulling engaged in something”
      • NOT when you do things just because it’s good for you, or it’s healthy, or for some other ulterior motive
  • “Society creates groups, and institutions, and conferences, and meetings, and social events, and cocktail parties, and get-togethers, and cookouts, and all of these things in order to bring people together to talk about DRIVEL”

These notes were edited by RoRoPa Editing Services

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