The book is about the powers that introverts have, despite the fact that we live in a world that’s biased towards extroversion
She used to be a lawyer before she became a writer
Across all cultures, introversion and extroversion are the most fundamental aspects of human nature, it explains so much about who we are
Since she was a kid, Susan has been an introvert
Although she’s running around giving talks (check out her TED Talk) and speeches, her underlying nature of being an introvert hasn’t changed
Susan estimates that around the year 1900, this topic started becoming a big deal – there we moved from being a culture of character to a culture of personality
People started moving from smaller areas where they new each other, to cities with people they’ve never met before and now needed to make good impression
Self help books of the 19th century were more about character, virtue, and integrity. In the 20th century, they were more about extroverted qualities.
“How would you choose to spend your time if you had no social and no professional obligations?” – that’s how you know your true self
Shane thinks he’s an undercover introvert masquerading as an extrovert – aren’t we all
What advice would Sharon have for introverts who feel their forced to be extroverted more than they desire?
We should step out of character for our important personal projects/work, but it’s important to schedule down time where we can truly be ourselves, and don’t have to be “on” at all
How does Susan create space in her relationship?
She’s married to an extrovert
Her work affords her a lot of solitude, but she’ll often take walks during family time when she needs space
Open offices and the workplace
Work place environments affect people tremendously
For many introverts, open offices are unproductive
Open offices are much more economically viable for companies
There’s this myth that creativity comes from collaboration, but perhaps it comes from solitude
Although she’s very introverted, Susan likes working in large cafes
Advice to an introvert in an open office?
Schedule your breaks
Have everyone on your team take this personality test, and discuss how the results affect the way each of you likes to work – this allows you to create a space where its socially acceptable to have this conversation
How should managers think about hiring introverts/extroverts?
You want a mix
If you have a team of all introverts, things become too quiet
If you have a team of all extroverts, people won’t think things through enough
Introverts and extroverts are attracted to each other as colleagues and peers
Should we be structuring environments by work or by people? Is there types of work that lends itself to different environments?
It’s important to design workplaces now where people have a choice of how they want to work (open office spaces vs. closed door offices)
If someone needs space, they should be able to get it
Introverts and extroverts differ at a neurobiological level
Introverts have a nervous system that reacts more to stimulation
Extroverts have nervous systems that react less to stimulation
Our craving/tolerance for stimulation changes throughout the day, pay attention to this and you can find your sweet spot
Pay attention to what you tend to envy
“Jealousy is an ugly emotion but it’s revealing of the truth”
It’s the things you envy that point you in the the direction of what you really want for yourself
With social media, you’re only seeing the good, so it makes you feel like the imperfections of your life are that much worse
What does it mean to live a meaningful life?
Love and work, that’s what matters
It’s important to be tuned into the beauty and fragility of humanity, and yourself
Everyone who passes by you has their own struggles, it’s only when you’re aware of them, that you can really feel love towards other people
Watch this video by The Cleveland Clinic – remind yourself that everyone has their own ‘subtitle’, be conscious of this
REALLY WATCH THIS
Susan likes to keep a diary to put her thoughts on paper,
The serves as something that’s really just for you, to get you in a state of mind that it’s okay to tell the full truth about everything you think and feel